We all eat, but sometimes we eat stuff that is not good for us. I had an ex-boyfriend who was just like that. This bad stuff takes time to digest and go through the system. Luckily we do digest it in time, and then we get rid of it, and we feel better for it, lighter, freer, more healthy. Give yourself a break – this is just the digestion process going on. Keep reaching for a better feeling thought – and pull your energy up that way.    

Maybe you say you will be on your own? I see it more as a bird finally getting out of its cage. It can sit on the ground, it can walk around, and when it is ready; it can fly. The same is true for you. 

I would suggest you make a list of all the things/places you always wanted to go/do and never could, because you had a boyfriend, or because being with him brought other constraints. When I left my ex,  I already knew I wanted to take a course on psychology, I wanted to go to the gym after work, I wanted to do a course on Reiki, I wanted to lean to sail a boat properly, I wanted to do a degree – probably in social psychology, I wanted to do a pottery course, I wanted to do yoga,  I wanted to do a sewing class…. the list went on… actually…. It still does! 

Your chains are falling away. You are going to have time that you can structure, where you can go out and meet people – see places – make decisions, without having to take into account obligations, and whether boyfriend wants to do it or not. H*ll! You can learn to do the things he introduced you to, without him!  

I know it seems far, but once you start to move and do things, your passion level will increase, you will feel better about yourself, you will naturally meet people, you will shine, you will have more energy, you will sleep better at night  – and some guy will come along, and say  – wow! that girl is sassy! Who is she? She is dynamic, funny, intelligent, down to earth, practical, beautiful, her eyes shine! (add your own qualities here) ……….. WOW!!!  I want to be a part of that!!!! 

Then it will be your turn to check him out, and see if you want him around – because you will be such an A**-kicking person, he might not come up to your standards!  

Hope this helped.  If so, let me know. Post your own experience, and lets spread our feminine light, so other feminine people can benefit from this.